{"id":91,"date":"2012-02-16T10:37:19","date_gmt":"2012-02-16T08:37:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.wordpress.com\/?p=24"},"modified":"2022-03-03T18:44:23","modified_gmt":"2022-03-03T16:44:23","slug":"iubirea-ca-si-dar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/?p=91","title":{"rendered":"Iubirea ca \u0219i dar"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>De c\u00e2nd m\u0103 \u0219tiu (ba chiar cu mai bine de 2000 de ani \u00eenainte), a existat \u00een om spiritul competitiv. Eu, personal, am avut ocazia mai mereu s\u0103 v\u0103d pretutindeni \u00een jur oameni care s-au luptat cu \u00eend\u00e2rjire pentru ceva ce credeau c\u0103 le apar\u021bine (ori pentru ceva ce-\u0219i doreau foarte mult). Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 spirit competitiv pentru mine? S\u0103 vrei mai mereu s\u0103 fi mai bun dec\u00e2t cel de l\u00e2ng\u0103 tine, s\u0103 &#8222;ai&#8221; mereu mai mult dec\u00e2t el. Evident c\u0103 nu to\u021bi au acest spirit \u00een ei \u00een aceea\u0219i m\u0103sur\u0103, dar to\u021bi \u00eel avem. Acest spirit competitiv e cel care a dus la na\u0219terea zilelor speciale precum &#8222;Valentine&#8217;s day&#8221;, &#8222;1Martie&#8221;, &#8222;8Martie&#8221;, zilele de na\u0219tere, nun\u021bile sau tradi\u021biile precum iepura\u0219ul de Pa\u0219te \u0219i Mo\u0219 Craciun.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Acest spirit competitiv a condus \u00een final la o transformare fundamental\u0103 a modului \u00een care fiecare din noi \u00een\u021belegem sentimentul iubirii. Astfel, suntem \u00een continuare educa\u021bi s\u0103 facem mereu bine fiindc\u0103 vom fi r\u0103spl\u0103ti\u021bi, c\u0103 e frumos s\u0103 fi iubit (chiar \u0219i numai c\u00e2teva zile pe an), etc.<br \/>Un vechi proverb hindus spunea &#8222;f\u0103 binele \u0219i apoi arunc\u0103-l \u00een f\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103&#8221;, adic\u0103 s\u0103 ui\u021bi binele f\u0103cut \u0219i s\u0103 nu te ag\u0103\u021bi de el ca de un premiu sau ca de un trofeu. Noi \u00een schimb am fost educa\u021bi exact pe dos, s\u0103 facem binele \u0219i apoi s\u0103 ne m\u00e2ndrim cu el sau s\u0103-l purt\u0103m mereu \u00een suflet ca un soi de scut. Nu o singur\u0103 dat\u0103 mi-a fost dat s\u0103 aud expresia &#8222;dup\u0103 toate c\u00e2te am f\u0103cut pentru el\/ea, am ajuns b\u0103taia lui\/ei de joc&#8221;. Da, omul a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat c\u0103 binele (\u0219i deasemeni iubirea) trebuie s\u0103 aib\u0103 un scop sau un premiu pentru care noi s\u0103 le manifest\u0103m. Astfel, \u00een locul sentimentului curat al iubirii spontane \u0219i curate, \u0219i-au f\u0103cut apari\u021bia calculele ra\u021bionale ale min\u021bii. \u00cen consecin\u021b\u0103, iubirea nu mai exist\u0103 ca d\u0103ruire de sine \u0219i nu mai este un izvor de fericire pentru cel ce o resimte, clip\u0103 de clip\u0103, ci un adev\u0103rat ra\u021bionament logic, o \u00eentreag\u0103 afacere a spiritului competitiv din noi.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2932 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/iubirecuflori-300x225.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/iubirecuflori-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/iubirecuflori.png 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>De multe ori am v\u0103zut cupluri care tratau iubirea exact ca pe o afacere cu profit sau pierderi, ceva \u00een genul &#8222;dac\u0103 tu m\u0103 iube\u0219ti, te iubesc \u0219i eu; dac\u0103 tu nu m\u0103 mai iube\u0219ti, n-am s\u0103 te mai iubesc nici eu&#8221;. \u00cen aceste cazuri, totul tinde s\u0103 se sf\u00e2r\u0219easc\u0103 ur\u00e2t (dac\u0103 spiritul competitiv din ei s-a dezvoltat foarte mult) sau s\u0103 ajung\u0103 o afacere de familie, \u00een care cei doi convie\u021buiesc pe baza unor reguli \u0219i norme prestabilite dinainte (ceva \u00een genul &#8222;dac\u0103 nu m\u0103 calci pe coad\u0103, nu te calc nici eu pe nervi&#8221;).<\/p>\n<p>Cic\u0103 odat\u0103, candva, Dumnezeu i-a dat ocazia unui om s\u0103 vad\u0103 \u0219i raiul si iadul deopotriva. \u00cen iad acesta v\u0103zu o oal\u0103 imens\u0103 cu m\u00e2ncare \u0219i foarte mul\u021bi oameni pe marginea ei care \u00eencercau s\u0103 se hr\u0103neasc\u0103 cu o lingur\u0103 lung\u0103 legat\u0103 de m\u00e2na lor. To\u021bi erau tri\u0219ti, sup\u0103ra\u021bi, nervo\u0219i \u0219i fl\u0103m\u00e2nzi, fiindc\u0103 nu reu\u0219eau acest lucru. \u00cen rai omul nostru v\u0103zu acea\u0219i oal\u0103, cu mul\u021bi oameni \u00eemprejur, to\u021bi cu acea\u0219i lingur\u0103 imens\u0103 legat\u0103 de m\u00e2na lor, dar to\u021bi erau ferici\u021bi \u0219i discutau veseli \u00eentre ei. Nedumerit, omul l-a \u00eentrebat pe Dumnezeu cum e posibil a\u0219a ceva, iar Dumnezeu i-a r\u0103spuns: &#8222;Simplu, cei din rai au \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 d\u0103ruiasc\u0103&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103 este un dar pe care sufletul fiec\u0103ruia din noi ar trebui s\u0103-l manifeste spontan si nelimitat de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd are ocazia, f\u0103r\u0103 constr\u00e2ngeri, f\u0103r\u0103 calcule meschine, f\u0103r\u0103 limit\u0103ri. Numai astfel va fi omul cu adev\u0103rat fericit \u0219i \u00eemplinit.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Cadourile cu sau f\u0103r\u0103 iubire.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2932,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"colormag_page_container_layout":"default_layout","colormag_page_sidebar_layout":"default_layout","ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,57],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-91","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-si-totusi-iubirea","category-speciale","post_format-post-format-standard"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/02\/iubirecuflori.png","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=91"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2934,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91\/revisions\/2934"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2932"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=91"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=91"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=91"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}