{"id":150,"date":"2012-12-08T11:21:33","date_gmt":"2012-12-08T09:21:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.wordpress.com\/?p=150"},"modified":"2022-03-02T16:38:00","modified_gmt":"2022-03-02T14:38:00","slug":"sa-iubesti-sau-sa-fi-iubit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/?p=150","title":{"rendered":"S\u0103 iube\u0219ti sau s\u0103 fii iubit"},"content":{"rendered":"

Luna asta parc\u0103 a \u00eennebunit lupu’. Toat\u0103 lumea vorbe\u0219te de iubire (inclusiv subsemnatul). \u0218i tot vorbindu-se de ea, am realizat c\u0103 majoritatea caut\u0103 s\u0103 fie iubi\u021bi \u0219i nu s\u0103 iubeasc\u0103. \u00cen mod paradoxal \u00eens\u0103, am observat c\u0103 au parte de ea \u00een special cei care au renun\u021bat s\u0103 o mai caute. Cum ar fi cei care au trecut recent printr-o mare dezam\u0103gire \u00een acest domeniu. A\u0219a am ajuns la dilema existen\u021bial\u0103 (zic eu) a iubirii: s\u0103 iube\u0219ti sau s\u0103 fii iubit?<\/strong><\/p>\n

A fi sau a nu fi iubit e un puzzle u\u0219or de rezolvat. Decidem repede \u00eentre existen\u021ba iubirii sau lipsa ei \u00een ceea ce ne prive\u0219te. Mai greu e c\u00e2nd trebuie s\u0103 decidem s\u0103 iubim la r\u00e2ndul nostru. Acesta e un pas pe care nu mul\u021bi sunt preg\u0103ti\u021bi s\u0103-l fac\u0103, c\u0103ci s\u0103 treci de la „a primi” la „a da” nu e u\u0219or.<\/p>\n

Majoritatea de care vorbeam mai sus nu s-a \u00eent\u00e2lnit cu sentimentul iubirii lui „a da” necondi\u021bionat. Astfel a luat na\u0219tere \u0219i prostul obicei provenit din vechea vorb\u0103 „dinte pentru dinte” \u0219i anume obiceiul de „a da” la schimb cu „a primi”. Adic\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dau iubire dac\u0103-mi dai \u0219i tu mie. \u00cen ziua de azi, sentimentul lui „a da la schimb” este mult mai des \u00eent\u00e2lnit dec\u00e2t oricare alt sentiment reciproc: te simpatizez dac\u0103 m\u0103 simpatizezi, te ador dac\u0103 m\u0103 adori… \u0219i te \u0219i divinizez dac\u0103 m\u0103 pl\u0103te\u0219ti bine.<\/p>\n

Probabil a\u0219a a luat na\u0219tere „luna cadourilor”. Perioada \u00een care to\u021bi au de c\u00e2\u0219tigat fiindc\u0103 to\u021bi dau \u0219i to\u021bi primesc. \u00cens\u0103 e ceva similar cu perioada unui r\u0103zboi, unde dou\u0103 p\u0103r\u021bi \u00ee\u0219i \u00eempart bombe \u0219i o a treia parte c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 de pe urma bombelor v\u00e2ndute celor dou\u0103 p\u0103r\u021bi. \u00cen cazul de fa\u021b\u0103 cea de-a treia parte sunt cei ce v\u00e2nd cadouri. \u0218i cel pu\u021bin ei sunt sinceri, c\u0103ci nu se acund \u00een spatele unor obiceiuri (ci doar \u00een spatele caselor de marcat). Cele dou\u0103 p\u0103r\u021bi sunt to\u021bi cei care au impresia c\u0103 au ceva de c\u00e2\u0219tigat de pe urma cadourilor. Exact ca \u0219i p\u0103r\u021bile dintr-un r\u0103zboi care-\u0219i \u00eempart bombe sper\u00e2nd s\u0103 c\u00e2\u0219tige ceva. \u00cen realitate cele dou\u0103 p\u0103r\u021bi sunt victimele celei de-a treia (\u00een ambele cazuri).<\/p>\n

Revenind la sentimente, ne-am obi\u0219nuit at\u00e2t de mult cu starea de fapt a lui „a da la schimb” \u00eenc\u00e2t am uitat s\u0103 trecem mai departe la „a da” necondi\u021bionat. Ne-am obi\u0219nuit at\u00e2t de mult s\u0103 d\u0103m cu programare, \u00eenc\u00e2t \u0219i no\u021biunea de iubire din sufletele noastre \u0219i-a pierdut spontaneitatea. Exact ca obi\u0219nuin\u021ba de a folosi calculatorul pentru calcule simple, care te face s\u0103 ui\u021bi p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103 tabla \u00eenmul\u021birii. \u0218i nu pentru c\u0103 nu suntem capabili de a iubi frenetic \u0219i nest\u0103vilit, ci pentru c\u0103 obi\u0219nuin\u021ba ne-a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat c\u0103 nu mai trebuie s\u0103 fim spontani. St\u0103m cumin\u021bi p\u00e2n\u0103 ne vine r\u00e2ndul s\u0103 d\u0103ruim \u0219i noi. C\u0103ci e mult mai u\u0219or dec\u00e2t s\u0103 dai spontan \u0219i pe nea\u0219teptate. La urma urmei dac\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 d\u0103m spontan cuiva un cadou probabil c\u0103 l-am programa dinainte. Asta e deja surpriz\u0103, nu-i a\u0219a? O surpriz\u0103 frumoas\u0103 \u0219i pl\u0103cut\u0103, dar tot programat\u0103 dinainte.<\/p>\n

La ce ne mai trebuie spontaneitatea c\u00e2nd avem altele \u00een loc? Pentru c\u0103 asta face diferen\u021ba \u00eentre iubirea lui „a da la schimb” \u0219i cea necondi\u021bionat\u0103 Pentru c\u0103 doar o iubire spontan\u0103 \u0219i neprogramat\u0103 poate fi frenetic\u0103 \u0219i nest\u0103vilit\u0103, intens\u0103 \u0219i miraculoas\u0103! Din nefericire \u00eens\u0103, obi\u0219nuin\u021ba ne-a deteriorat at\u00e2t de tare spontaneitatea \u00eenc\u00e2t am ajuns s\u0103 ne fie team\u0103 s\u0103 d\u0103ruim spontan \u0219i necondi\u021bionat. Suntem plini de suspiciuni, b\u0103nuieli, intrigi alambicate, etc, \u00eens\u0103 nu \u0219i de spontaneitate.\"\"<\/p>\n

Ne place bradul de Cr\u0103ciun \u00eempodobit cu cadouri sub el, nu-i a\u0219a? At\u00e2t de tare \u00eenc\u00e2t suntem dispu\u0219i s\u0103 punem \u0219i cadouri goale sub el numai s\u0103 fie plin cu multe daruri. Ave\u021bi grij\u0103 doar s\u0103 nu v\u0103 \u00eempacheta\u021bi \u0219i ultima urm\u0103 de iubire odat\u0103 cu ele \u0219i s\u0103 o pierde\u021bi apoi \u00een urma unui schimb „spontan” de cadouri.
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Despre iubirea lui \u201ea da la schimb\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2868,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"colormag_page_container_layout":"default_layout","colormag_page_sidebar_layout":"default_layout","ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,57],"tags":[30],"class_list":["post-150","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-si-totusi-iubirea","category-speciale","tag-iubire"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/iubire-la-schimb.png","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=150"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2865,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150\/revisions\/2865"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2868"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=150"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=150"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sitotusiiubirea.armonios.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=150"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}